No one teaches us how to communicate for connection.
But it’s never too late to learn how.
Imagine if you could….
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Bring up hard topics with your partner without shutting down or blowing up.
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Feel seen, valued, and supported — like you really understand each other.
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Prevent disagreements from spiraling out of control anymore.
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Know how to repair, reconnect, and move forward feeling heard and understood.
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Feel emotionally safe in your relationship– create a climate where you can both be real, honest, and vulnerable.
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Laugh more. Touch more. Feel like partners not roommates.
If you're like most couples I work with, you're probably not there – yet.
Maybe you feel emotionally disconnected and even lonely in your relationship. And deep down, you want things to change, but don’t know how. Your relationship isn’t broken. You’re just caught in a reactive pattern that doesn’t work. And you’re not alone—no one teaches us how to do this. That’s why I created this program.
I'm Colette Jane Fehr — a licensed psychotherapist, certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, TEDx speaker, and author of the upcoming book The Cost of Quiet.
I created a program for my clients based on more than 13 years of working with couples in my clinical practice. And I’ve incorporated the best of what I wish I had known during my own early marriage. Today, I’m offering something I once needed. And I know it can help you, too.
You don’t have to stay stuck. You just need the right tools to communicate and connect.
Whether you feel like roommates, keep looping through the same argument, or simply want to strengthen your communication and emotional connection — my program will teach you how.
Introducing
From Conflict to Connection
A 14-Week Program to Communicate Better, Fight Smarter, and Love Deeper
The 14-Week Curriculum at a Glance:
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Week 1: The Big Picture
Why conflict happens, what healthy connection really looks like, and how your nervous system plays a role in communication.
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Week 2: Understanding the Cycle
Identify your couple’s negative pattern—what triggers it, how you each react, and how it keeps you stuck.
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Week 3: Regulate to Relate
Learn to recognize when you’re dysregulated and how to use “the pause” to de-escalate before conflict spirals.
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Week 4: Team Mentality
Shift from blame to partnership—externalize the cycle and start working as a team to face challenges together.
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Week 5: Triggers, Stories & Protective Moves
Uncover the deeper meanings and vulnerabilities beneath your reactivity—and what each of you is protecting.
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Week 6: Deep Listening
Practice presence, empathy, and non-defensive listening so your partner actually feels heard and seen.
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Week 7: Speaking From the Heart
Learn how to share feelings and needs clearly—without criticism or shutdowns.
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Week 8: Repairing Ruptures
Master the art of real repair: what makes an apology land, how to rebuild safety, and why unresolved hurts linger.
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Week 9: Rebuilding Trust
Understand what trust actually means in a relationship, and how to create it through consistent, attuned action.
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Week 10: Creating Emotional Safety
Establish new patterns of connection where it’s safe to be honest, open, and imperfect.
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Week 11: Navigating Differences
Use practical tools to solve solvable problems, manage disagreements, and respect each other’s needs.
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Week 12: Reclaiming Intimacy
Reignite physical and emotional connection, including strategies for rebuilding closeness without pressure or rejection.
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Week 13: Handling Stress Together
Develop tools to manage external stress as a team—so life’s challenges bring you closer, not further apart.
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Week 14: Integration & Visioning
Celebrate how far you’ve come, integrate your new skills, and map out how you’ll keep the momentum going.
How it Works
This program blends the structure of a proven curriculum with the personalization of 1:1 coaching. You’ll meet with Colette each week for a private 75-minute session designed to teach, guide, and support you through real-time changes in your relationship. Each session is grounded in the week’s theme, with pre-session prompts and practices to help you prepare and integrate the material.
You’ll Also Receive
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Weekly video guidance to set the tone for the week’s focus
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Optional WhatsApp support for quick check-ins or clarifications between sessions
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Tools to help you practice with your partner in real life
This isn't just about talking.
It’s about learning the skills to listen, speak up, de-escalate, and repair—so you both walk away from conflict feeling heard, supported, and emotionally safe.
By the end of this program, you will:
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✔ Understand and interrupt your negative patterns
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✔ Regulate your emotions and respond rather than react
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✔ Regulate your emotions and respond rather than react
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✔ Communicate with more honesty, clarity, and care
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✔ Rebuild trust through consistent, attuned action
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✔ Feel emotionally safe, connected, and aligned
Meet Your Coach
I’m Colette Jane Fehr, and my mission is to help couples move from conflict to connection. I know what it’s like to feel stuck, disconnected, and unsure how to fix the dynamic in your most important relationship. It’s what led me to become a therapist and coach, and it’s what continues to fuel my work today.
How to Know if This Program is Right for You
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Who it's For
✔ Couples who want to reconnect and communicate better
✔ Partners stuck in reactive patterns, but ready to break the cycle
✔ Those looking to invest in the long-term health of their relationship
✔ Couples who want a structured, guided way to rebuild connection
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Who it's Not For
✔ Relationships involving abuse, untreated mental illness, or active addiction
✔ Couples in acute crisis needing intensive therapy
✔ Anyone seeking change without doing their own inner work
If you want….
Real tools, not just generic advice
Therapist-informed guidance grounded in science and real-life practice
A more secure, emotionally connected partnership
Change that extends far beyond the 14 weeks
…you’re in the right place.
A Letter from Colette
If you’re ready to learn the skills no one ever taught you, I’d be honored to guide you.
I’ve spent the last 14 years working with couples, using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which is the gold standard in therapeutic treatment for couples. I’ve taught hundreds of couples how to repair, rebuild, and reconnect using science-backed, attachment-based tools. And I’ve distilled everything I’ve learned—in the therapy room, in my own relationships, and through my TEDx talk and upcoming book The Cost of Quiet—and translated it into this coaching program. This is the program I wish every couple had access to. It’s practical, compassionate, and transformative.