The Secret to a Thriving Relationship: Feeling Valued by Your Partner
Have you ever wondered how to make your relationship stronger, more intimate, and filled with trust? Well, there's one key aspect that can make all the difference: feeling important to each other.
Why Feeling Important is Crucial
At the end of the day, we all want to feel valued and appreciated, especially by our partners. We long to feel like we come first—that our partners will respond to us quickly and empathetically when we need them. Knowing that you hold a special place in their life brings you closer, strengthens your bond, and builds trust. This assurance gives you the confidence to be vulnerable, sharing your deepest thoughts and emotions without holding back.
How to Show Your Partner They're Important
While telling your partner they're important is a great start, actions speak louder than words.
Here are some ideas to show your significant other that they matter:
Respond to their bids for connection, like that text during a busy workday.
Leave a sweet note expressing your appreciation for something specific they did.
Have their back in public whether you agree or disagree with what they’re saying.
Put them first and prioritize their needs whenever possible.
Be there for them consistently, especially during tough times.
If You Don't Feel Valued…
If you don't feel important in your relationship, take a step back and reflect. Ask yourself these questions:
Are there specific actions, words or lack thereof that are making you feel this way?
Have you openly communicated your feelings to your partner?
Is there something specific your partner could do that would make you feel important?
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. Your partner may have no idea what would make the difference.
For example, when my husband travels and our schedules are busy it’s easy to resort to texting rather than talking on the phone. But I feel like a priority when he makes time to call me for ten minutes so we can connect.
I’ve asked for this directly by saying, “When you’re away for work, could you please make time to call me every day? I feel more connected when we talk for ten minutes than I do when we text, and it makes me feel like I’m important to you.”
He’s been responsive to this need and it’s made our time apart much less stressful.
Discussing your concerns with your partner will help you understand each other better and work together to strengthen your bond. By combining heartfelt words with thoughtful actions, you can build a strong, loving partnership that stands the test of time.